It’s not uncommon for gay men to struggle with the fact that they don’t fit the masculine mould – especially when growing up.Read more
This isn’t meant as some sort of inverted prejudice; I would never be so stupid as to turn someone down because of his HIV status. I just think it needs saying.Read more
Fear is a perfectly rational response to danger. Fear can keep us safe. But a state of perpetual fear is not sustainable and it is not healthy.Read more
“Oh shit, I have HIV” were not the words I said when I was first diagnosed. They were what I said out loud to myself six months later as I was sat on the tube on my way home from a long day at work.Read more
Over three quarters of those who died by suicide in 2012, while suffering from depression and related illnesses, were men. It’s the biggest killer of men under 50 in the UK, claiming lives of more young men than cancer.Read more
As the age-old cliché goes, “all good things must come to an end”, and so it’s with the heaviest of hearts that I’m writing this, my last column for FS magazine.Read more
I made the mistake of reading some comments on an article I posted online about dating HIV-positive guys. Most of the comments were really supportive but there are always going to be those guys who just want to make it clear that they’re the good gay guys and I’m... well, just not.Read more
The number of gay guys using chems who catch HIV daily (yes, daily) in London is certainly worrying, but what’s even more worrying is that we’re still misunderstanding the basics of how to avoid catching HIV when having sex.Read more
Coming out, the eternal ball ache of being a homosexual.Read more
This one time, definitely not at band camp, I was feeling pretty damn horny. Like second nature, out came Grindr and the search for that quick fix began. After chats with numerous guys, I found someone that caught my attention.Read more
Then spread empathy...Read more
A question that can stop too many gay men in their tracks these days. In fact it’s become the most commonly asked question by workers in London’s sexual health clinics.Read more