The age of gay men

I have no idea how this all came about, but older gay men (who don’t fit in the ‘masc daddy’ tribe) are completely invisible in gay media.Read more

How I made peace with my HIV status

I don’t think I was sober for any sex I had that following year. In hindsight, that first time should have been an indicator of what was to come.Read more

Case of the ex: How break-ups really impact us

Divisive events of the past few years show how much animosity there can be when two sides fundamentally disagree with each other...Read more

Relationships: why can't gay men communicate?

For issue #158 of FS we conducted a big survey on break-ups (to start the year on a cheering footing)...Read more

How HIV made me look at dating differently

I recently met up with a friend of mine who laughed when I mentioned that I was writing my next article on relationships. I can’t blame him.Read more

No more sex shaming: why my 2017 will be sex-positive

"I want to be a ‘slut’. There, I said it."Read more

HIV Stripped Bare | Part 3: The naked truth about HIV stigma

Shock election results in the UK and the United States remind us that we live in a world that’s more polarised and divided than we may have thought.Read more

PrEP, discrimination and HIV stigma

I am all for PrEP. Besides being cost-effective, PrEP is an outstanding preventive tool and should be freely available to anyone needing it.Read more

How stigma stops you getting a date

Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.Read more

The Ex-Factor

In a phenomenon that seems to be particular to the gay community, a lot of guys end up with a friend or two who they used to go out with. Some still go on holiday together. But how close a friend can your ex really be?Read more

FS Porn Survey 2016: the results

We surveyed over 1,000 gay men about all things porn. Here are the results in full...Read more

Porn. Sex. XXX - is porn affecting our health?

13% believe that watching bareback porn affected their decision to have unprotected sex.Read more

Alcohol and the gay community

The number of gay men who use and abuse alcohol is far greater than those who take chems. Yet, perhaps because of the legal status, alcohol risks being the forgotten problem.Read more

Open Relationships Uncovered

We surveyed 1,006 gay men and asked them what their opinions on open relationships are. We uncovered some fascinating results...Read more

How to survive without poppers

I asked ‘Gay Twitter’ whether ‘will you miss poppers if/when they are banned?’ Of the 272 gay men who voted, 53% said no and 47% said yes.Read more

I am gay sexual liberation...

We are lucky. We’ve got it all. We fought through centuries of sex in the shadows, criminalisation, the blackmailing years. We avoided the fates of Oscar Wilde, Alan Turing and countless other anonymous victims of societal homophobia. Lest we forget.Read more

I used to think 'why am I always single?' Then something happened...

After years of searching for ‘Mr Right’ I think I’ve finally found my match. He’s smart, funny, creative, affectionate and emotionally balanced, pretty much ticking all the essential boxes on my list.Read more