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  2. Racism and the gay scene FS #148

Racism and the gay scene FS #148


All good things must come to an end. My final column...

All good things must come to an end. My final column...

As the age-old cliché goes, “all good things must come to an end”, and so it’s with the heaviest of hearts that I’m writing this, my last column for FS magazine. Read more

Published: 5th June, 2015

Updated: 16th March, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

What makes you think he’ll never cheat?

What makes you think he’ll never cheat?

I made the mistake of reading some comments on an article I posted online about dating HIV-positive guys. Most of the comments were really supportive but there are always going to be those guys who just want to make it clear that they’re the good gay guys and I’m... well, just not. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 28th September, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

My BIG gay sex problem #148

My BIG gay sex problem #148

When it comes to sex and relationships there is no such thing as a stupid question. Here are our answers to some of the things you asked us via the GMFA website. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 18th August, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

"We just don’t give a toss about our health when the right high is kicking in"

The number of gay guys using chems who catch HIV daily (yes, daily) in London is certainly worrying, but what’s even more worrying is that we’re still misunderstanding the basics of how to avoid catching HIV when having sex. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 16th March, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

How to survive a darkroom

How to survive a darkroom

Darkrooms or backrooms are cruising mazes that are found in some venues. Their main purpose is to provide party goers with a place to have sex. They can be very hot if you have an exhibitionist streak or enjoy group play but they can also be dangerous especially when drugs and alcohol are involved. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 16th March, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

A modern guy's guide to cruising

A modern guy's guide to cruising

As a young gay man, I learnt pretty much everything I knew about sex from Tom of Finland cartoons. This was a world before the internet. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 22nd May, 2020

Author: Ian Howley

Comments: 1

The BIG young and gay rule book

The BIG young and gay rule book

If you’re under 25 like me, you’ve had the enormous luck of growing up in the best ever era in which to be a gay man. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 16th March, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

I'm angry about the lack of mental health campaigns

I'm angry about the lack of mental health campaigns

Coming out, the eternal ball ache of being a homosexual. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 16th March, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

TRUE LIFE: My battle with food, body image and self worth

TRUE LIFE: My battle with food, body image and self worth

Body image is something I’ve always struggled with. Whether or not that’s the acceptance of others or just accepting myself. But spending 18 years of my life overweight might be something to do with that. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 16th March, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

We need to celebrate being HIV-positive and undetectable

We need to celebrate being HIV-positive and undetectable

This one time, definitely not at band camp, I was feeling pretty damn horny. Like second nature, out came Grindr and the search for that quick fix began. After chats with numerous guys, I found someone that caught my attention. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 13th January, 2019

Author: Ian Howley

This boy is a TOP!

This boy is a TOP!

Life is great when you’re on top. All you have to do is bend your lover/stranger you met on Grindr over and slip, push, shove, ram, pound or pummel it in. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 16th March, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

OPINION: Want to stop racism?

OPINION: Want to stop racism?

Then spread empathy... Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 27th September, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

Racism and the gay scene

Racism and the gay scene

WARNING: some of content in this feature may be offensive to some. FS does not condone it but felt we needed to present the responses honestly. Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2015

Updated: 12th June, 2020

Author: Ian Howley

Comments: 1

Dear white gay men...

Dear white gay men...

Last month we asked guys to fill in a short survey about racism. Over 400 white gay men responded. We asked for their honest thoughts on racism on the gay scene – whether they discriminate against other races, whether they have ever experienced racism themselves, and their general thoughts about preference vs. racism. Read more

Published: 2nd June, 2015

Updated: 21st October, 2017

Author: Ian Howley

Comments: 1

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